Your Relationships Are A Reflection of You: The Law of Mirroring
My mother has taught me that you are to treat yourself as if you are your own garden. You must plant the kind of trees and flowers that work with your environment and by doing so you learn what it takes to upkeep and nourish your own home, what it thrives off and what it doesn’t require at all. Along with this, it also means that when someone comes along and wishes to create a connection with you, you’re able to tell whether they can help meet the needs of your garden or not, as a partner should only ever enhance and help cultivate what you already have. Chances also are, if you pour endless time and energy into your garden, which is just a metaphor for you, your offerings to a significant other are going to be so much more valuable because you have an awareness and knowledge of yourself already.
We need to realise that relationships are at the core of the human experience and that none of them are to be deemed bad, even though plenty are toxic. ‘Bad’ is just a diving platform off into the pool of what you really desire as it shows you contrast and teaches what you need to know in order to move forward and step into your authenticity, then allowing someone of the same nature to be a match.
You’ve no doubt heard of the law of attraction which states that similar energies are drawn together and while this is very much true an even better way to view this law is by seeing it as the law of mirroring. When you are working in the subconscious state all that is coming to you is because of what is active within you, displaying an accurate reflection of who you are being in that moment, hence being called the law of mirroring. This is exactly why we have relationships, so we can bring forth those subconscious parts of ourselves, integrate them and then choose to live life consciously and purposefully from here on out.
When we actively choose to make the relationship we have with ourselves a priority, we set ourselves up for a far greater success rate with all relationships. Here’s another analogy; relationships are like setting up a track of dominos, the first one must tip perfectly in order for the ripple effect to occur effortlessly, otherwise if it tips out of alignment the chance of that beautiful silky result could be jeopardised. You are that very first domino and you need to be in the most collected and prepared state possible to align with your next potential relationship. It’s okay if you’ve had many relationships before the one that you’re currently wanting, in fact, it’s probably better because you have an even greater understanding of what you want making those desires already active, giving you a head start when awakening.
Allow your relationships with others and yourself to teach you things but don’t settle because you get comfortable or you think it’ll do. You are part of the universe and it’s asking for your input to help create greater expansion and evolution not just for you, but for all. So keep changing, keep asking questions, keep wanting more, keep figuring yourself out as relationships are beautiful but if the one you have with yourself isn’t then none of them will be.